Introduction: It was January 26, 2010, a date etched in my memory as one of the first times I witnessed the devastating effects of parental alienation up close. The setting? A seemingly ordinary band concert. But what transpired that evening revealed the heart-wrenching consequences of family conflict and manipulation.
The Alienator’s Presence: As we entered the auditorium, there she sat—the alienator, accompanied by Mary and Liam. Waves of excitement swept over the kids as they spotted us, and joyful cries of “Daddy! Daddy!” filled the air. But what followed next would forever change the mood.
A Drastic Turn: With the swiftness of a predator pouncing on its prey, the alienator sprang to action. She dashed to the end of the row, occupying the last seat available, and forcefully slammed her legs against the chair in front of her with a resounding thud that echoed through the auditorium.
Shattered Smiles: The once-beaming smiles on the children’s faces quickly faded, replaced by confusion and despair. The alienator’s booming declaration pierced through the room: “It’s MY TIME!” Her voice was so loud that it silenced the entire audience.
Tears and Darkness: Tears welled up in the eyes of the little ones as the lights dimmed, and the concert began. The atmosphere had shifted from one of anticipation and happiness to one of heartbreak and tension, all too familiar in the world of parental alienation.
Picture: October 28, 2012- Liam(10), Kaitie(14), Mary (12)
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Blocking at a Funeral – I have been alienaed from my daughter for over 10 years . I have 3 grandaughters that do not know me due to the brainwashing my ex has caused. He told me when I divorced him you will not see them. Recently, my daughter lost her mother-in-law which was sudden and unexpected. When I went to the wake my ex got up posted 2 people at fhe coffee room door with their legs spread and arms folded un from of them like guards so I could not get to my daughter. The father in law hugged me 3 different times and was so happy to see me. He told me he and the deceased knew what they were doing to me and told me to hang in there. My daughter walked down the aisle at the funeral and turned my grandaughters faces away from me. This is in fact abuse. It was also said I should have not gone to a funetal where I was not wanted. I would like thoughts from everyone on what was done to me at this funeral.
Even though you’re divorced, for the kids you’ve done everything you can to have an amicable relationship with their dad. After some years, you would be invited to some of their birthday dinners. Who wouldn’t love an extra opportunity to spend time with their own kids? You always made sure to get you ex-nieces and exnephews special gifts, you even gifted your ex-niece $80 for her 18th birthday. That was a big deal, considering you don’t have extra money. But you always made sure to do something thoughtful. Because you love them. They’re actually the only family you’ve ever known. Even though they are your exhusbands family. It still feels good to have a sense of family and fellowship and getting to eat out is usually a treat.
But for whatever reason, your own birthdays just come and go, each one a little worse than the last. No birthday dinner. Nothing special. You just wish anyone cared enough to tell you happy birthday. Maybe it’s because your birthday is in the summertime that everyone seems to forget. So be it.
You very recently celebrated your youngest cub turning 18 herself! Huge milestone (and accomplishment tbh). Unfortunately your youngest cub also decided on her 18th that she doesn’t have to stay at your house anymore. “I’m 18 now, I can do what I want!” “My dad pays for my car and my cell phone too, so he won’t take my stuff away, no matter what you say.”
You can’t win this one, no matter how hard you try. So you try to just let it go.
Two weeks post 18th birthday, you sent a text to say “I love you but I can’t allow you to disrespect me in this manner, be better.” You got no feedback. No reply. No call. No text.
Two more weeks later and you still haven’t heard from her. She’s a high school senior.
Her dad won’t enforce any kind of discipline or consequences for bad behavior. He’s stressed to the hilt as it is, with the patriarch of the family having dementia and now having to be in assisted living. He’s too stressed out to even be a parent right now.
Your dissolving relationship with your youngest is the least of his concerns. While it’s at the top of your own TTD list.
Parental alienation. All I can say is that it’s a damn good thing we don’t have anymore kids that require coparenting. After a certain amount of alienation, it becomes downright abusive.
And as history has proven- It’ll be your kids and you that suffer the most because of this.
The next birthday is in April. So what the heck, maybe then you’ll get to see your youngest cub.
This is what you get for always wanting the best for your children.
What a waste of love, time,energy, and effort.