Jack’s nightmare into parental alienation started in December 2008 when he filed for divorce. Despite the fact his ex-wife had a history of domestic violence against not only him but also his children, she was awarded primary custody while Jack became a weekend dad with a child support payment.
On December 1, 2011, Jack won 50/50 custody. Little did we understand that the games with the alienator were just beginning.
Over the next several years, we watched as the alienator rewrote childhood memories; included the kids in rituals to sever bonds; used fear and manipulation to sabotage visitation time; enlisted the use of the police, DFS and other community professionals in order to advance the agenda… and so much more.
On March 22, 2015, the oldest daughter Kaitie sent a text message telling her dad she needed a “break.” The next time he saw her she was hysterical and refused to communicate with him. He hasn’t seen her since.
It was then that we knew we had to go back to court and fight for full custody or risk losing the other two children.
On November 16, 2016, after proving my husband had been parentally alienated from his oldest daughter Kaitie, we won full custody of Mary and Liam. We foolishly believed that getting them away from the alienator would make a difference. We were wrong.
During the next year and a half, they saw the alienator only twice.
On May 31, 2018, Mary and Liam left for their mother’s summer visit and never returned.
On June 13, 2018, one day before the kids were to return from the alienator’s, our attorney called and told us we were being sued for full custody.
On June 14, 2018 at 4pm, one hour before the kids were to arrive back to our home, DFS called and told us we were being investigated for 27 counts of child abuse. Our home was deemed “unsafe” and the kids were not allowed to return until an investigation was completed.
On June 28, 2018, Jack and I faced his 3 children in court ready to testify against us for things that never happened.
After almost 10 years and over 100k, Jack and I were exhausted. We’d drained every account, had every kind of custody and tried every tactic we’d read in Divorce Poison. Still, NOTHING-including getting them away from the alienator- kept them from turning on us.
We decided that day to clear our names, to walk away and to save ourselves.
On July 9, 2018 I published the very first post on Parental Alienation Speaks.
The events contained in this blog are true and written from detailed journals I kept throughout our almost ten-year ordeal.
The purpose of sharing our story is to help you understand what parental alienation is and what it looks like in real life. We believe that by sharing actual events that took place over that ten-year period, we may be able to help you better understand parental alienation.
Since its inception, the blog has gone worldwide.
On November 1, 2018, Parental Alienation Speaks became a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization.
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For purposes of this blog and our story, we will refer to Parental Alienation as “the intentional and strategic indoctrination of hate and/or guilt by one parent against the other, with the sole purpose of severing the bond spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically with the other parent, thus gaining total power over the child, and ultimately the alienated parent.” The word “parent” can be substituted with “stepparent” or “family member.”
Parental Alienation Speaks is a non-profit organization that utilizes our story as a platform to bring awareness and education about parental alienation to the world.
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For almost 10 years, I was a stepmother to Liam, Mary and Kaitie. I documented every detail. Maybe, by sharing those details, I can help you in your fight. I won’t stop until someone listens.
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Make no mistake about it, parental alienation should be a crime.
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Please contact us at: cheryl@parentalalienationspeaks.com! We’d love to hear from you!