Originally posted March 26, 2019/ Revised September 16, 2023
Introduction: In the tumultuous world of parental alienation, even the simplest aspects of a child’s life can become battlegrounds. In this story, we delve into a unique tactic employed by the alienator – using dental health as a means of control. Brace yourself for a jaw-dropping tale of manipulation, control, and unwavering determination.
The Twisted Prelude: Baby Teeth Pulled Out
Picture this: innocent children losing their baby teeth, a rite of passage celebrated in countless households. But for this family, the alienator had a different plan. Instead of allowing nature to take its course, she orchestrated a sinister move. When the kids were still in their tender years, she found a dentist who willingly extracted their baby teeth. Yes, you read that right. Baby teeth were yanked out under her direction, setting the stage for future dental troubles.
Brace for Impact: The Battle Over Braces
The alienator’s control didn’t stop at baby teeth; she had more cards up her sleeve. Enter the never-ending letters and heated disputes over braces. Among the children, Mary faced the most significant dental challenges. Her teeth grew in unconventional ways, resembling a shark’s mouth at one point, with rows of teeth defying logic.
Despite the family’s constant struggle to defend themselves against false accusations, grueling court appearances, and the relentless lies propagated by the alienator, she persisted. But here’s the kicker – it wasn’t really about Mary getting braces.
A Game of Control: The Alienator’s True Motive
Behind the facade of concern for Mary’s dental health lay the alienator’s true intentions. She craved control; she thrived on making the family’s life miserable. Winning at all costs was her ultimate goal. While Mary excelled as a student and a dedicated band performer, the alienator remained fixated on asserting her dominance.
The Unseen Battlefield: Teeth as a Tool of Manipulation
In the complex web of parental alienation, the alienator identified an unexpected weapon – teeth. She believed she could manipulate, control, and disrupt the lives of others by holding their dental health hostage. This weapon became part of her arsenal in the ongoing struggle for dominance.
Endless Struggles: The Battle Over Braces Continues
The relentless battle for braces dragged on for months, with no end in sight. The alienator persistently implied that the Guardian ad Litem (GAL) was pushing for Mary’s orthodontic treatment, a claim that was nothing more than a calculated fabrication.
These conversations are between Jack and the alienator through Talking Parents.
12/2/2015 from the alienator:
… the childrens lawyer would like me to schedule mary an orthodontic appt to get an estimation for braces. You are also welcome to call and make this appt, and I can meet you there. Wednesday or Thursday work best for me. We like dr sharp in branson. I know she still has two baby teeth that probably will need to come out first. I believe they may be loose. I don’t have dr sharps number he is out of springfield.
The alienator isn’t getting the response she wanted from Jack, so she continues.
1/9/2016 from the alienator:
what day for may and dr. sharp for braces?
1/13/2016 from the alienator:
what day for the orthodontist?
1/15/2016 from the alienator:
The GAL requested that I make apt for orthodontist so that I could get estimation for her to have braces put on. I thought you would like to be involved with apt time. When mary has dentist apt you can also verify that mary will need braces. Do you like Dr, Sharp for the orthodontist ? I will go ahead Monday the 18th of January and call Dr. Sharp’s office schedule apt if you give me your black out days.
1/20/2016 from the alienator:
Marys apt with Dr.Sharp is February 17th at 400 the Branson Office on hwy 248 to evaluate her for braces.
Jack replies to the alienator:
I just called Dr. Sharp’s office. They said the “ballpark” minimum we’d be looking at for braces is $6400. They do not take Medicaid. I do not have $3200 for braces because of recent court costs incurred during the contempt case. As I stated the other day, braces are not a need but a want. Cheryl and I will let you know when we can afford them.
2/17/16 from the alienator:
dr sharp march 2 at 1:45 for consultation for braces.
March 9, 2016 from the alienator’s attorney:
Dear Mr. Mefferd:
Mary’s dental issues are negatively affecting her view of herself and are interfering in her social and educational interactions.
For example, Mary’s irregular and extra teeth make playing her trumpet very uncomfortable. Mary cannot eat fresh fruit without cutting it first, especially apples. One of her left lateral teeth is behind the rest of the row, making her teeth not meet properly. Mary also has a tooth on the top row of teeth that is growing up and to the inside of the roof of her mouth, nearly touching the roof.
Mary is so embarrassed about her looks that she refuses to smile in public. You can imagine that someone who is afraid to smile is learning odd social coping mechanisms.
The alienator respectfully asks Mr. Mefferd to help her pay for Mary’s orthodontic work.
If Mr. Mefferd does not think that this is a necessary procedure, then please ask him to allow Ms. Wilkinson arranging these services on her own.
The Alienator’s 5th Attorney
We asked specifically what “odd coping social mechanisms” were but we never received an answer.
The same day we received this letter, I checked the alienator’s Facebook page. Very seldom did the alienator post anything, especially when it came to the kids. But this day was different. This day she was making a point and giving us the middle finger.
The girl that “refuses to smile in public” is smiling in public for the camera and has her picture posted on her mother’s Facebook page.
During the time the alienator was pressuring us to pay for braces, I’d gotten Mary on a waiting list through a program called “Smiles Change Lives.” This program, if accepted, provided braces at a very discounted rate.
We were on the waiting list for over a year however on July 19, 2016, Mary received her braces through the program!
Ironically, when it came time for the alienator to cough up $315 for her half of the braces and application fee, she was unable to do so.
These are messages from the alienator through Talking Parents after Mary received her braces for $630.
7/23/2016 from the alienator:
I will leave all judgments to the judge regarding money exchange for braces…I am glad mary has her braces on.
7/29/2016 from the alienator:
…And I do have a monthly budget I have to stick with I cant pay asap unless emergency. I will help pay when I figure budget for august
7/30/2016 from the alienator:
I will work it into my budget for their needs.
8/22/2016 from the alienator:
I have done my budget and I just cannot afford braces at this time I will be sure and let you know when I can afford to help pay for braces.
9/28/2016 from the alienator:
I cannot afford to help you with the kids right now
To date, the alienator has never paid us $315 for her half of the braces she was so desperate to get onto Mary’s teeth.