Dear Parental Alienation Nation,
Parental Alienation Speaks is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization committed to bringing awareness to the world and hope to the alienated one S.P.A.R.K. at a time!
(Support for the Parentally Alienated thru Random Acts of Kindness)
For purposes of our story, we will refer to Parental Alienation as “the intentional and strategic indoctrination of hate and/or guilt by one parent against the other, with the sole purpose of severing the bond spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically with the other parent, thus gaining total power over the child, and ultimately the alienated parent.” The word “parent” can be substituted with “stepparent” or “family member.”
For eight years, Jack and I fought against Parental Alienation. We watched helplessly as the alienator (ex-wife) rewrote childhood memories; included the kids in rituals to sever bonds; used fear and manipulation to sabotage visitation time; enlisted the use of the police, DFS and other community professionals in order to advance the agenda… and so much more.
On November 16, 2016, we successfully proved in court that Parental Alienation had occurred with his oldest daughter. Because of this, he was granted sole legal and physical custody of his other 2 children.
For two years, we watched as they thrived. We naively believed that physically separating the kids from their alienator would prevent it from happening again. We were wrong. On May 31, 2018, they walked out the front door for their mother’s summer visit, and never came back. The last time we saw them was in court ready to testify against us for abuse they’d never suffered.
We cleared our names and walked away.
After 10 years of court battles, we were broken.
On July 9, 2018, my husband and I posted our first blog. Never in a million years could we have imagined that by writing our story, we would be connecting with alienated parents all over the world!
There are approximately 22 million of us who have watched helplessly as our children were turned into weapons and used against us.
Because of this, my husband and I created S.P.A.R.K.
S.P.A.R.K.‘s (Support for the Parentally Alienated thru Random Acts of Kindness) purpose is to bring hope to the alienated one spark at a time!
One of the stories we’ve heard recently is from a lady named Jenny. She came across our blog and reached out through email. She’s been alienated from her daughter for 10 years and is completely broken.
After hearing her story, I was desperate to figure out what I could do for her! Just sending an email didn’t feel like enough. I wanted her to know she wasn’t alone and she had others just like you and I out here cheering her on! So, I quickly put together a care package for her.
There isn’t anything we can do to bring back her only daughter, but maybe by sending her a SPARK it will bring hope in her darkness.
Daily, we’re heartbroken to hear yet another chronicle of how a child’s mind was poisoned and how another parent is left shattered.
As a community of alienated parents…
We struggle to breathe. Some days it’s only moment my moment we are able to get through the day. We are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop and the next battle to start.
We struggle to exist. We’re all either fighting to save our child, currently on the battlefield or are already alienated and have given up. Our souls are broken.
We struggle to be visible. We’ve given up on trying to have relationships with outsiders. We’re too tired and trying to explain our war only makes it worse.
We struggle to find our identity. Our lives literally changed overnight. It no longer revolves around school functions, band concerts or soccer practice. We went from being parents to being outsiders struggling to find purpose.
We struggle to hang on. Daily we’re forced to make decisions like whether to pay the mortgage or pay the attorney for the next fight.
We struggle to survive. Those of us that are alienated are grieving. Those of us in the throws of battle are struggling to keep our heads above water.
We struggle to believe in anything good. Many have given up on God or just good in general. Family and friends have turned their backs on us. We’ve been beaten up by the court system, DFS and all of those “professionals.”
We know we can’t change their circumstances today, but what we can do is send them a SPARK of hope to let them know they aren’t alone in this world!
We have several other stories and even more SPARK‘s to send! Please consider donating a few dollars to help bring hope to an alienated parent’s world.
Your SPARK may not change the world, but an alienated parent’s world may change with your SPARK!
Please Donate! Your contributions are now tax deductible!